So I hit my first bump in the road of new relationship bliss...
The GF and I take turns traveling to see each other. Last weekend she was here. We have spent alot of time to ourselves up until this point, and I am ready to socialize. I invited some friends to go to dinner and go out dancing with me and the GF last saturday night.
The friday before I had taken the GF to see a friend sing at a local bar. There were several friends there and they all got along really well. This past saturday was a bit different...
One of my friends that I invited to go out is also an ex of mine. My ex and I really do think of ourselves as friends and not ex lovers. But for the sake of honesty I told my GF that this friend was also my ex. She said it was totally cool
Not so much....
It wasn't pretty. My ex made some comments during diner, that coming from a friend aren't so bad, but coming from an ex are a little inappropriate. The GF just got quiet a few times and I asked her if she was OK. She assured me that she was...
Then, while at the bar we were dancing (I LOVE dancing and I don't care who it is with). The ex came up behind me and started dancing and so I obliged. We have danced together a ton since we broke up and she is in a committed relationship. The shit hit the fan. The GF came and pushed her off and literally staked her claim of me.
I am not cool with that.
I guess I can understand if the GF is uncomfortable with that, but her approach scared me a little. I am trying to put it off on the fact that she had a bad day, but it seemed a little too possesive to me. Am I crazy?
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I've always tried to not mix the current with any ex's. There's history there that the current doesn't know about and that only makes her feel uncomfortable.
ReplyDeleteWhy would you dance with an ex when your GF was there to dance with??? slap the back of your head for me ok? If the GF and you are in a serious relationship then I don't think it was being possessive and then yes, you're crazy. If you're in the just dating mode well then you're playing games and anything goes but it doesn't sound like the GF knows this though.
That's my take.
Oooh. Mixing old and new relationships is always a bit of a mine field.
ReplyDeleteYour GF's reaction was a bit extreme but does appear to have been as a result of provocation throughout the evening from what you said.
Have you spoken to her about it?
Amy: You made total sense. Maybe it was just too soon for that situation. I think maybe we should just stick to dinner, until the GF understands the ex and I really are just friends. Thanks!
ReplyDeleteJude: My friends here have taken care of the slapping of the back of the head! Thanks for telling it like it is. I should have not danced with the ex...oops...I have to get used to being in a relationship again!
Haizey: I have talked to the GF about that night, but not about being a little weirded out by her reaction. I was trying to sort things out a little for myself before approaching her about that. Thanks for the feedback!